The Four Steps of Transformation
Relax into each step, even though it may feel counter-intuitive
When we talk about manifestation, it’s often about things — love, money, a dream home, a Ferrari. But we’re not manifesting these “things” so much as we’re becoming the person who is ready to have them. We’re manifesting an identity — a new personality — and that shift in identity creates a new personal reality. The outer changes follow the inner ones.
Everything in our lives is organized around frequency: our patterns of attention, our nervous system, our sense of self. When something “manifests,” it’s not because we forced it into existence but because we shifted into the version of ourselves for whom that experience is normal and available.
Transformation tends to unfold in four distinct phases. We don’t always move through them perfectly or linearly, and we may revisit them depending on what we’re changing. What matters most is recognizing where we are — and not resisting it.
1. The Spark of Inspiration
Transformation begins when attention changes.
We feel a spark — I really want this. We’re drawn toward a different way of living or being. Sometimes it feels like an inner calling, almost automatic, as if a part of us already knows what’s next (or what we want to be next!). This phase isn’t just about what we want to do. It’s about who we want to be.
Then usually we start researching, imagining, and taking in new ideas. This can feel exciting — and overwhelming. That’s because even though our attention has shifted forward, we’re still attached to the old self. Even if we don’t like our current circumstances, we’re regulated around them.
The priority here isn’t action.
It’s detachment.
Noticing old reactions without judging them. Pausing before responding the way we used to. Beginning to regulate the nervous system and create moments of inner calm. Mastering attention — because what we focus on, grows. Focus on unconditional love and support for yourself, which leads to self-trust (the name of the game).
This phase is about listening more than doing.
2. The Clearing
This phase often feels ironic — and uncomfortable.
We’ve started changing course, doing “the right things,” and suddenly we’re feeling more emotional, more triggered, more dysregulated. Believe it or not, this isn’t regression. It’s the nervous system releasing stored emotions and attachments now that consciousness has returned to the body.
In this phase, most people struggle with resistance. Wanting to stay positive. Not wanting to feel like the old self again. But what’s surfacing is what needs to clear!
This phase can’t be skipped. It shouldn’t be indulged, either, so know when to get out of the “dirty bathwater.”
Let emotions move through without getting lost in them. As old material clears, energy frees up — and we can begin recalibrating toward what feels genuinely good and stabilizing. And guess what? There’s more space for deeper transformation!
Sometimes we have to go back a little in order to move forward, like a slingshot.
3. Self-Trust Building
By now, we often know what to do. We understand the tools. But knowing isn’t the same as living it.
This phase is about practice and correction, not perfection.
We catch ourselves responding from the old self — and choose differently. We regulate the nervous system and remind it that the new way of being is safe. We talk to the inner child and let it know we’re autonomous now. That we get to choose our reality (and have a lot of fun doing it, too!).
Self-trust builds through repetition. Through choosing peace over chaos. Through aligning behavior with the identity we’re stepping into.
This is where knowledge becomes embodied.
4. Identity in Motion
At a certain point, the healing era ends.
That doesn’t mean there’s nothing left to heal but we stop identifying as a work-in-progress. We stop waiting for permission or certainty. We take off the bandages and start living as the version of ourselves we’ve been rehearsing.
This isn’t “fake it till you make it.” It’s motion creating the self.
Like breaking in a new pair of shoes—a great pair!—we have to walk, move, and live in this identity until it becomes natural. This phase often arrives when we’ve outgrown our environment and feel bored or frustrated enough to jump before we’re ready.
There’s no outside confirmation here. We just do it, like Nike.
Bringing It Together
These four phases — The Spark of Inspiration, The Clearing, Self-Trust Building, and Identity in Motion — form a cycle of real transformation. We may move back and forth between them. The key is acknowledging where we are and working with that phase, rather than resisting it.
That’s how change becomes sustainable.
That’s how manifestation becomes lived reality.
A Question to Consider
Which phase are you in right now — and what would it look like to honor it, rather than rush past it?
If you’d like support aligning with the version of yourself that’s already emerging, a psychic-astrology reading can help clarify what’s being activated for you now — or ongoing life coaching can provide steady support as you move through these phases. There’s nothing to fix. Just a rhythm to work with.