Reality Transurfing, Part 1: A New Way to Create Your Reality
It’s easy to move through life on autopilot, reacting to whatever shows up in front of us. Someone else’s irritation, a stressful message, an unexpected delay — any of these can set the tone for the entire day. Without realizing it, we end up letting external forces determine our internal world, our feeling state, and ultimately our direction. In that mode, we’re at the mercy of things beyond our control.
Reality Transurfing introduces a different approach. It offers a way to reclaim authorship of your experience by understanding how your inner state functions as the selector of your life’s trajectory. When the inner state changes, the outer circumstances follow— not instantly, but reliably.
The idea is simple. The application is powerful.
The Core Principle: Your Inner State Shapes Your Path
Transurfing teaches that life is made up of countless possible “lifelines” — different paths, different outcomes, different versions of the day you’re walking into. You don’t control all the events, but you influence which track you meet through the state you hold within yourself.
A steady, grounded inner state puts you on a lifeline where solutions appear, people cooperate, and opportunities show up at the right time. A chaotic or reactive inner state pulls you into lifelines where everything feels uphill.
This is not abstract philosophy. Anyone who has ever noticed how differently life unfolds when they’re calm versus when they’re spiraling has already seen this principle in action.
When the state shifts, the world responds.
The Hidden Influence: Pendulums
One of Transurfing’s most useful concepts is the idea of the “pendulum.” A pendulum is any external force that pulls your attention and emotional energy. These forces aren’t sinister — they’re simply dynamics that gain momentum when people feed them.
Pendulums can be:
workplace tension
politics
social conflicts
family patterns
cultural pressures
drama
perfectionism
the need to be right
the urge to prove something
A pendulum grows stronger the more emotional intensity you give it. You feed a pendulum when you argue, worry, obsess, or invest too much importance in something that drains you.
Most people don’t notice how often they hand over their energy this way.
The moment you stop feeding a pendulum, it begins to lose influence over you. Your clarity returns. Your reactions soften. And almost immediately, you feel yourself moving onto a different “track” — one with fewer obstacles and more options.
Pendulums are not fought.
They are starved of your emotional investment.
This single insight can change how you move through your day. Consider what you can easily get “pulled into” that sets you off. That’s likely a pendulum.
Shifting Tracks Begins With Neutral Awareness
Becoming a better creator of your reality doesn’t start with affirmations or force. It starts with awareness — noticing when you’re being pulled off-center.
Neutral awareness is the entry point to every single Transurfing technique.
It looks like this:
Pausing before reacting.
Letting strong emotion settle before responding.
Noticing the moment you feel “hooked.”
Choosing clarity over urgency.
This isn’t passivity. It’s strength. A controlled internal environment gives you far more power than a reactive one.
To begin working with Transurfing, start small.
A Simple One-Day Practice
The 3-Second Reset
For the next 24 hours:
When you feel irritation, tension, or emotional pressure, take a beat and pause for a moment.
Notice what is pulling you.
Ask yourself:
“Is this worth my energy, or is this a pendulum trying to hook me?”Release the internal pressure — even slightly — before you act.
That’s it.
This small interruption breaks unconscious patterns and puts you back in the driver’s seat. It pulls you out of emotional reactivity and places you on a lifeline where things unfold with less friction.
Try it once, and you’ll feel the difference.
What Begins to Change
When you apply this consistently — even imperfectly — you’ll notice shifts:
Less emotional exhaustion
More clarity in decision-making
Fewer situations escalating unnecessarily
More ease in conversations
Better timing throughout the day
Your time is made more productive
A stronger sense of personal authority
Improved ability to focus on what matters
Most importantly, you begin to relate to life from a position of steadiness rather than reaction.
From there, it becomes easier to choose the outcomes you want — not by force, but by alignment.
This is the foundation of Reality Transurfing.
The next article will take you deeper into pendulums, importance, and how to remove unnecessary friction from your life so you can move forward with strength and confidence.
Want Support in Applying This?
If you’re ready to work with these tools in a deeper, more personal way, you can book a one-on-one session. We can combine coaching with astrology and/or intuitive insight and apply Transurfing directly to whatever you’re facing — relationships, purpose, creative work, or any area where you want to regain clarity and direction.